how YOU doin?
Women in urban environments get hit on a lot. Quite honestly it has little to do with how cute a girl looks in a pair of jeans. In the two years that I’ve lived here, I’ve noticed that if a woman so much as glances in the direction of a construction crew she’s guaranteed some sort of response. For those with self-esteem issues I imagine that it’s like Christmas every single day.
This past weekend, I ended up getting cornered by a complete stranger who’d dressed up for Halloween as Viagra. It was hard (hah! I swear that pun was an accident), but I somehow resisted the urge to swoon at his Pfizer sweatshirt, blue wig and drunken state (that would normally result in the use of said pill if it ever came to that).
SIDENOTE - If you’re feeling sorry for yourself that you don’t often get hit on, all I can say is this: Viagra Man is pretty indicative of the sort of guys who normally choose to flirt with me. Aim higher.
SIDENOTE #2 - Mom/Pastoral Staff, if you’re reading this, it wouldn’t ever come to “that”. Promise.
In the wake of Saturday night and my run-in with Viagra guy, I spent some time thinking about flirting. How weird it is. How awkward we can all be. How rare it is to meet someone who you click with, and how great it is to feel like the two of you have a connection that everyone else in the room is oblivious to.
The church shouldn’t ever feel like a meat market. Generally, I think that out of consideration of the larger Christian community that we’re a part of, it’s definitely better to err on the side of caution. Still, I laughed out loud when I thought of Ecclesiastes 3 in the context flirty banter. There is a time for everything y’all, the Bible says so. Never one to argue with canonical truths, I’ll simply go on record and state that for me—despite the citywide efforts of construction workers—the time for flirting is never before the hour of 8am or while you’re testifying to the challenges of erectile dysfunction. Gentleman, do yourself a favor and keep these things in mind.
Funny story about flirting failures? Leave it in the comments. Also, ladies help the fellas out and let them know your thoughts on showing interest sans the creep factor.
-SARAH
