November 2009
13 posts
Mailbag Monday: Post-Breakup Silent Treatment
Dear IKDH,
A couple months ago, a guy broke up with me after 2 months of dating. He was the first guy I’d ever kissed (and yes, I’m well into my 20’s), and I was clear that because of this we needed to be careful and asked him not to encourage more of the same if he didn’t think this was going somewhere. He continued to encourage it. We talked about God, our feelings for...
Beware The "Turkey Drop": Holiday Dumping Season... →
I don’t know if you guys have figured it out yet, but our girl Chanel knows things. When she mentioned that the holidays could be rough on relationships (or you, due to your lack thereof) who would’ve thought that NPR would also be jumping aboard that gravy train? I mean it’s NPR. The station our parents listened to. The station that we, in our naive youth, not-so-secretly hated...
You Broke Up for a Reason
Ah, November. It’s that wonderful time of year again where we all pack our suitcases to travel thousands of miles to eat an ungodly amount of carbohydrates with family. Don’t you just love Thanksgiving? And as is often the case, somewhere in between challenging cousins to a Scrabble tournament and making triple-decker leftover turkey sandwiches, it happens—you unexpectedly reconnect with an ex....
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Great Expectations
As you might have gathered, I am not exactly the expert when it comes to long-term commitment.
When I lived in Michigan, I wasn’t remotely ready to settle down and start making babies, but that’s what you do when you graduate from a place like Calvin College. Heaven help you if you were a few years out of school and still relatively unattached. If that was the case, then getting about the...
Question:
meaghano:
ingoodtaste:
Do men have some weird extra sensory perception which allows them to discern exactly when a woman has thought and eventually said out loud (quietly first and to herself but then with resolution and to others) ultimately and honestly and with complete authority and without an ounce of passive aggression, ‘If I never hear from him again, that would be totally fine. In...
Dirty, Shameful Sex
Disclaimery text: This post was written by a guest contributor. One who just happens to be my older brother. In debating the subject back and forth (who doesn’t want to talk about such things with their siblings?) Mike responded in an email,
“These are the kind of discussions that I want to be having at whatever church I end up at. Honest, intellectual explorations of faith without...
Mailbag Monday
*have a question for IKDH? Send it to ikisseddatinghello[at]gmail.com…we’ll do our best to answer, and might even share it with our readers (with your permission, obvi.)
Dear IKDH:
From the moment I met this guy (lets call him Chuck), our ‘relationship’ was full of flirtation (on both sides) and intimacy (emotional and spiritual.) We spent tons of time together, he paid for me...
That Thing Girls Do
I grew up in a household of men. I’m one of three girls on my mom’s side of the family, which means that holidays were always spent in the company of 14 other guys. There are some perks to the gig. I get my own room when beds are scarce. I get to be the resident advice-giver when it comes to buying presents for their girlfriends. And I get to sit in on conversations that normally only...
“If pain must come, may it come quickly…If he has to make a choice, may he...”
– from By the River Piedra I Saw Down and Wept
In honor of today’s commentary on the waiting game we often play in dating, we bring you a fabulous quote from The Alchemist author Paulo Coelho. Chanel posted this a while back on Twitter and referred to it as “the best synopsis of a...
Dating 101
A male friend of IKDH posted this as his Facebook status today:
To all females: if a guy suggests coffee or a meal, FREAKING RESPOND TO THE MAN. whether you want to hang or heck no he ain’t gettin your time or you’re confused, give the man a yes, no or ask him a question! whatever your response, GIVE ONE. a straighforward “no” is much better than silence - not knowing is...
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how YOU doin?
Women in urban environments get hit on a lot. Quite honestly it has little to do with how cute a girl looks in a pair of jeans. In the two years that I’ve lived here, I’ve noticed that if a woman so much as glances in the direction of a construction crew she’s guaranteed some sort of response. For those with self-esteem issues I imagine that it’s like Christmas every single...
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Is Your iPhone Keeping You Single? →
I love this piece from Monday’s New York Times by op-ed columnist David Brooks called “Cellphones, Texts and Lovers.” It so perfectly sums up the dating conundrum in our 21st century, technology-infused culture.
In the age of text messages, tweets and Facebook comments, we’re constantly connected to an ever-widening pool of potential suitors. But being connected...