October 2009
19 posts
Relationships = Commodity?
As a follow up to Kristen’s post last week on the subject of sex, I wanted to share New York Magazine’s cover story (EDIT: Maybe don’t click on that link. Or do. But please be aware that the article provides another link to really explicit first-hand accounts of people’s sex lives…you’ve been warned.) Kristen wrote in an email,
“What I found very sad about it is that...
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I Kissed Dating Maybe (depending on how I feel...
Hello. I am a man.
Last week’s discussion on pseudo-dating got me to thinking about the Grand Canyon-sized chasm of differences between how women and men think in regards to dating. At risk of being chastised and ridiculed by the women I know who read this blog, I’m going to speak honestly and candidly for the next few minutes.
Far too often there are extreme disconnections between what a...
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So when you see that a guy shows up looking groomed...”
– Julia Allison, is that you?
Guys, what do you think? Should we be asking you out? If you have a good story, share it here!
-KRISTEN
“I don’t bust out the non-elastic waistbands for just anyone.”
– If I clear my schedule on a Friday night and then show up looking cuter than usual, leaning in closer than necessary to hear whatever it is that you’re saying, I might be flirting with you. If I bust out non-elastic pants and (heaven help me) eyeliner, you should consult your calendar and find a...
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Let's Talk About Sex.
Christian sex, that is…
Telling people what to do isn’t a function of this blog. That is most decidedly not how we roll. At IKDH, it’s all about starting a dialogue and facilitating the exchange of thoughts and ideas.
In light of that vision, I’m going to bend the rules just a bit and say that if you live in the NYC area, you may want to consider going to a gathering...
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Death of a Crush
What is it about losing a crush that makes you feel like the world just turned a darker shade of gray? And I don’t mean “lose” as in the way I lost my keys for 45 minutes this morning or the way the world lost Michael Jackson this summer—I mean lose as in you finally decide that, in fact, the sun does not rise and set on this person’s arse as initially suspected. Your...
You guys,
Pull up a chair and have a seat, we need to have a little chat. Please don’t panic, it’s not a scary conversation and we are definitely not looking to Define This Relationship it’s just, well, we get the sense that you like us. Which is amazing! And flattering! And ohmyword a little bit terrifying.
By our calculations IKDH publicly launched 21 days ago. In that short amount of...
Behind the Scenes at IKDH
Tonight I conducted the first official IKDH interview. I went in expose-style with a tiny mp3 recorder and my big girl heels to get the scoop on what men think of relationships—it was serious dating journalism. No ex-girlfriend would be off-limits. No break-up horror story would go untold. I was a mess…albeit a stylish mess, but a mess nonetheless.
Now, some of you know I’m the...
Dealing With A Broken Heart
At some point in our storied pasts, all of us have experienced heartbreaks of varying degrees. There’s the Rejected Yet Again heartbreak (relatively minor in the grand scheme of things) and then there’s the heartbreak of watching the person you loved—still love—leave. That particular pain leaves you breathless, with your heart quite literally aching in your chest.
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The Art of Pseudo-Dating
Chanel’s recent and brilliant post on awkwardly romantic lady-dates (Sarah, you had me at gelato in the park) got me thinking about another type of awkward situation that often comes up in the life of a community:
Pseudo-dating.
By definition, this is exactly what it sounds like and I believe the majority of you will know what I’m talking about: pseudo-dating is spending a...
Now That You've Said Hello...
Even though we readily admit to being novices at the whole guy-girl Christian dating conundrum, Sarah and I are pros at girl on girl action. Wait a minute—that doesn’t sound right. What we mean to say is this: we have a tendency to find ourselves out on the town, in settings that would otherwise be considered romantic. So we thought we would share some of our fabulous...
What role does the # of singles play in picking a...
From the inbox:
What role in picking a church does the # of singles there play in the decision? I personally attend a church with no singles, count em, NONE but they have solid bible teaching and great preaching. However, there are some “pretty” churches around town that are partially, if not totally whacked in many ways. Anyway, it’s been a struggle for me. Even just from the...
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PRIVATE. Keep Out.
Our friend Alex recently forwarded us an article by Tim Keller. I don’t know much about Keller other than that he is a minister here in NYC, but I do know Alex. He is the sort of guy who says incredibly wise, practical things and then looks at you like “Isn’t it so obvious?” and it is obvious (but only because Alex has bothered to point it out to you).
One part in particular, struck me. Keller...
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Living Single...For Now
I never wanted to get married. When I was in college, I told my older brother I was fairly certain I was meant to be single for the rest of my life, and I hoped he wouldn’t mind if I considered his four children to be my own. He was thrilled, wanting me to focus on my education, since I was the first in my family to go to college. He said he and his wife would pray I didn’t get a boyfriend,...
From the archives - Oct. 2007
SARAH: I don’t think I can date him…
UNCLE: Why?
SARAH: Apart from the fact that he makes me want to toss my phone across the room?
UNCLE: Well yeah, apart from that.
SARAH: If I married him, what would my name be?
UNCLE: (snorts and then starts giggling like a little girl) Sarah Lee! …but think about all the cute pet names!!!!!!!! DATE HIM.
SARAH: Muffin…
UNCLE: Cupcake…
SARAH: Aww my little strudel…
UNCLE: You could name your kids after pastries!
SARAH: Oooh, you’re a sassy little tart aren’t you.